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17 Steps to Help You Make Changes In Your Life


Ever wanted to make serious changes in your life, but didn’t know where to start?


Knowing you need to do something and doing it, are two different things.


It’s easy to know what you have to do, but doing it can be quite overwhelming and in some cases, just exhausting.


So, how can you make needed changes in your life?

Want to make a change in your life, to help you accomplish your goals.

Here are 17 steps you can take to make necessary changes right now that can lead to extraordinary changes for your future.



Step #1- Think Small


First, you need to take some pressure off yourself by thinking small. I know you don’t normally hear that but when it comes to making real changes in your life, you have to take it one step at a time.


If you're the type of person that procrastinates, it may be because you're trying to take on too much and when you start, you get so overwhelmed, that you stop.


Pushing the task back further and further until you just don’t get it done. Taking one thing at a time can help.


Even if the task has many parts, starting on one small thing, still means you started. Then the next day, take another small part.


Before you know it, your small parts have become one huge task.


Don’t feel you have to finish it all at once. Especially, if it’s a change you're making in your life and it’s not affecting others. Take the time you need to gradually make the change.



Step #2 - Get a Planner


Having a planner allows you to solidify your ideas and tasks by putting them in writing.


This is a cool mental trick to help you get things done. Putting your ideas and tasks in writing makes your mind understand that these things have to get done.


Remember in school, when your teacher told you that taking notes helps you remember the information better and you tried it one time and you passed your test.


Well, that’s because it does, note taking is just a way of inviting more senses (sight, touch, taste, hearing, smell) along for the ride that makes up your thoughts. The more senses involved, the more your brain realizes this must be important.


Having a planner is like notetaking, you’re not only thinking of the idea or task, but you're writing it, and seeing it. You’re telling your brain more than one sense agrees, this idea or task should happen.


Heck, you're even smelling it, because the paper and pen you use have a smell to them. With that in mind, try to get a planner and writing tools that you enjoy.


It’s the little things. Right?

If you are trying to make changes in your life, having a planner can help.

Don’t knock a good planner and what it can help you accomplish in your life. You can start today, by deciding how you like to plan.


If you struggle with procrastination, a monthly planner may be overwhelming, so try a daily or weekly planner. Remember, start small.



Step#3 - Tell a Friend


Another great way to make changes in your life is to tell a friend. Speaking out loud and telling others what you want to accomplish is a helpful way to solidify your ideas.


You want a positive response, so you want to tell a trusted friend that’s going to just listen as you explain how you plan to accomplish your goal.


No "Debbie Downers" allowed!

Telling a supportive friend your plans is a good way to motivate you to make changes in your life.

Telling others your plans is another mental exercise that works. It invites two other senses ( hearing and speaking) into your plans and again tells your mind that this is something you have to get done.


Another thing that happens when you do this is accountability. When you invite others into your mind and tell them your plans, it’s as though you're not only holding yourself accountable for what you have to do, but you're also allowing someone else to support you.


We all need cheerleaders to pump us up and remind us of what we said we're going to do. Remember, in a positive way.



Step #4 - Have a Plan A-Z


When deciding to change, it's also important to think about the failures that come with that change.


Failure is not a bad thing when you’re mentally prepared to face it. So how do you prepare to fail?


One way is by thinking about the possibility. Once you think about it, you realize it could happen, then you can think about what to do if it does happen.


It's less of a shock and you can regroup. You regroup by having a plan B, then if that doesn’t work have a plan C, and so on. Keep planning until you find what works for you.


Many successful people will tell you, the plan they have at first doesn’t always work out the way they think.


They had to take another route to get down the road of success. But one thing that remains the same, although the plans changed, they succeeded because they didn't give up.


When it comes to changes, no one thing way is correct all the time. You can have different roads leading to the same place.


You just need to keep in mind, that failure is not that a particular plan didn’t work but that you gave up trying, that’s the real failure.


So, don’t be afraid to change the plan. Write that in your planner too, “Today, I had to change my plans”. LOL!



Step #5 - Get Inspiration and Motivation


Get inspiration from quotes and people who have made changes in their lives, similar to the ones you're trying to make.


Sometimes, we confuse this with comparing ourselves to others but the difference is, you're using their life and experience to build yourself up, not tear yourself down.


You’re looking at the possible, not the impossible when it comes to what you can accomplish.


Everyone needs a hero, to motivate them and remind them that anything is possible. Find your hero, and allow their experience to inspire and motivate you to accomplish your goals.


This is why the next thing you can do is so important.



Step #6 - Social Media On Your terms


Use social media to “positively troll” people you want to be inspired by. Social media can be a dangerous place. It's most times filled with an inflated version of people’s lives that can seem perfect.


But instead of thinking like that, keep in mind that the most influential person had to start somewhere, many of them started right where you are right now.


Mix up your following as well. Follow those who are were you want to be and where you are right now, that way you have a nice balance of inspiration and motivation.


Whether you use social media for business or personal, block the haters. Please don’t even respond to negativity, once you respond they will waste your time in a loop of bad energy.


Take a break when you need to as well.



Step #7 - Define Yourself and Stand By It


Defining who you are is important when it comes to making changes in your life. It helps you to make changes that are right for you and not based on what others feel you should be doing.